I read an article in the Washington Post about an unvaccinated politician who died of Covid-19. He had been in favor of everyone deciding for themselves. He didn’t believe he was at risk because he was healthy. His wife is devastated, and she doesn’t want her husband’s choice and his regret about not getting the vaccine to be used to promote the vaccine.

I don’t understand that. Why wouldn’t you want to protect others in any way you can? Grieve, but then try to save others from having to go through the pain you’re experiencing. Maybe she doesn’t want the immature people to throw guilt, laugh, or say “I told you so.”

Is it that wanting to save face, mistakes, shame, guilt and apologies are difficult? If so, it’s time to grow up.

Is it that forgiveness and compassion are difficult? If so, it’s time to grow up.

Growing up means you stop thinking it’s all about you. It means you don’t have to experience it yourself to put yourself in another’s shoes. You start seeing the world through others’ eyes.

A teenager once told me that he is shocked when an adult acts like a child. It leaves him speechless. I’m always surprised too. When lives are at stake, it doesn’t leave me speechless, obviously.

Please get the vaccine. One’s liberty doesn’t come before another’s life and pursuit of happiness. If you still have vaccine hesitancy, visit the Santa Barbara Department of Public Health for answers to common concerns: publichealthsbc.org/not-sure-about-the-vaccine. If you haven’t gotten it because you’re confident that you’re healthy enough to survive it, think about what would happen to your family if you’re wrong. Mostly, think about the lives of others.